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As traditional as the bridal shower might be, there are still loads of questions about the etiquette behind it. From who hosts the shower to what kinds of gifts are appropriate, we’re here to help answer some of your top etiquette questions.

Who hosts the shower?

Tradition says someone outside of the bride’s family should host the bridal shower, like the maid of honor (if it’s not her sister) or the bridesmaids. Of course, as times change, so do traditions and it’s not so uncommon for the mother-of-the-bride or sister to play host.

Who’s invited to the bridal shower?

The bride’s family and close female friends are usually at the top of the invite list, as well as the groom’s close female relatives. Here’s the thing to remember: just because someone is invited to the wedding doesn’t mean she has to be invited to the bridal shower. On the other hand, if someone is invited to the bridal shower it is customary to also invite her to the wedding.

When should invitations be sent?

At least one month to six weeks in advance. This gives potential guests and the bride-to-be plenty of time to prepare.

Should guests be notified to bring a gift?

Most people assume that gifts will be given and will bring one of their own. Some experts say it’s perfectly acceptable to include the gift registry in the invitation, but others say it’s a no-no. Go with your gut. If the shower has a theme (kitchen, lingerie, etc.) and you want people to bring gifts within that theme, include that information in the invitation.

Who pays for the bridal shower?

Whoever hosts the bridal shower pays for the bridal shower. Please don’t expect guests to help foot the bill. The only money they should think about spending is money for the gift.

Should gifts be recorded?

Yes! Appoint someone “secretary of gifts” and have her record what the gift was, who gifted it, and the gifter’s address. All this information will come in handy when the bride sits down to write thank-you notes.