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Being kicked out of the bridal party, no matter what the reason, is a bummer. If you’ve already spent money on a dress and other arrangements, it can hurt financially, but there’s no doubt about the emotional distress such an event can cause. So what do you do? How do you react? And should you go to the wedding anyway? Here are a few tips to help and soothe the ache.
1) First of all, and I know this is hard, try not to take it personally. Of course your feelings will be hurt when you get the phone call/email/text saying, “Thanks, but no thanks,” but don’t jump to conclusions. Maybe there’s something bigger going on that you don’t know about. Maybe it has little do with who you are and more to do with who the bride is. It doesn’t hurt to communicate in a respectable manner to find out what’s going on if the bride didn’t give you a reason as to why you were kicked out. Say something like, “Did I do something to offend you?” or “That’s really too bad, as I was looking forward to being a part of your wedding.” Do a little fishing or if you’re comfortable with straight up asking, “Hey, what’s the deal here?” go for it. The important thing is to ease your mind and move on.
2) As for attending the wedding after getting the boot, it’s really up to you and what kind of situation you’re in. Did the bride ask you to attend? Is she a close friend or relative? Is the friendship worth saving? Maybe she’s just being a total bridezilla and it’s best to steer clear for awhile. Call her up, tell her you won’t be attending the wedding, but you’d be happy to work on the friendship after the dust settles.
3) If you’ve already made travel plans and/or bought a dress, see if you can get compensated for at least part of what you’ve already put into the wedding. Call the airline and inquire about their cancelation policy/refunds and return the dress or ask around and see if anyone wants to buy it from you. You may not get all your money back, but some’s better than none.
4) Just remember, being kicked out may be the best thing that’s happened to you, especially if the bride is being a total B and is expecting way too much of everyone. If all else fails, just stay quiet for awhile; she may come to her senses and apologize. But if she asks you to be a part of the wedding party again, be advised of her fickle emotions and decisions. Better to just wish her the best and move on.
