If human history is any proof, it’s safe to say that conflict is the norm when two or more people come together. And there’s definitely no shortage of it when you throw “wedding planning” into the mix. Whether you’re the bride-to-be, maid of honor, or bridesmaid, conflict might come knocking at your door and it’s best to know how to handle it when it does. Below are some things to keep in mind when dealing with and resolving conflict within the bridal party.
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Tip #1: Don’t keep silent.
Communication is key when it comes to resolving conflict. Keeping silent or worse, talking behind someone’s back, only leads to misunderstandings and assumptions. Instead of becoming the gossip queen, talk out the problem face-to-face. If you’re the bride and the conflict is between members of the bridal party, sit them down individually to get each person’s story, then go from there. Encourage communication up front and less drama will unfold.
Tip #2: Respect perspectives.
Everyone believes they’re right, otherwise there wouldn’t be debates. When resolving conflict, step in the other person’s shoes and see the problem from her perspective. She’s probably not trying to cause trouble, just doing what she thinks is best. Respect other’s opinions and perspectives and things will go more smoothly.
Tip #3: Create joyful solutions.
It’s easy to get wrapped up in being right, but in order to get on the other side of the conflict, you must make the solution the priority. You might be the bride or the maid of honor, but you’re also part of a team and being part of a team means compromising. And don’t think you have to compromise your happiness for the sake of others. It’s all about thinking outside the box, brainstorming, and creating solutions that benefit everyone.
Tip #4: Know your expectations.
It may seem strange, but having low expectations can take a lot of pressure off you and everyone else. If you’re the bride and have unreasonable expectations for your bridesmaid, problems will arise and you’ll be disappointed. Know matter what level you’re at within the bridal party, let people know what you expect of them. As a bride, do you expect the bridesmaid with three kids to help craft placards at midnight? As a bridesmaid, do you expect the other bridesmaids to pick up the slack when you can’t get to your duties? Talk it out, set boundaries, and let others know what you’re able to do or not do.
