You’ve been asked to be part of your closest girlfriend’s wedding day. At first thought, you are super elated! Then you may start to think, do I have enough time to dedicate to the bride-to-be emotionally? Am I financially able to take on the role of being a bridesmaid? These questions are quite reasonable to have and does not make you a bad friend for second guessing your potential bridesmaid role. I got turned down from some of my very close friends when asked to be a bridesmaid in my wedding. Most were not financially able to take on the role and they were completely honest in communicating that to me. If you’re contemplating whether or not to say yes to being her bridesmaid, I have some tips that will help make your decision.
Financial
As a member of the bridal party you’ll have some fixed wedding cost associated with your duties. Bridesmaid dress, shoes, accessories, hair and makeup are some cost to consider. And let’s not forget about the gifts! Engagement party, bridal shower, bachelorette party, and wedding gifts. According the Bridesmaid Report conducted by The Wedding Report, bridesmaids spend an average of $1009 in a single wedding. Keep in mind most cost are situational. No two brides are alike. That being said. Some brides may understand that you cannot financially buy them gifts for all wedding related events. And are totally fine with that. Financial obligation is most often the deciding factor when turning down a role as a bridesmaid.
Time
Wedding planning requires time. From dress fittings to rehearsals you’ll be required to keep very important engagement dates. If you don’t you’ll run the risk of being kicked out of the wedding party. If you have a full plate on your hand with work and home life, decide if you can manage your time effectively with added bridesmaid responsibilities.
Emotional
One much needed bridesmaid hat you’ll wear, is as a supportive counselor. Planning a wedding in it of itself is to many extremely stressful. As a bridesmaid it’s also emotionally draining. Be sure to you’re emotionally ready to be emotionally supportive.
When a special request comes from a close girlfriend tying the knot, it can get a little nerve wrecking. If you aren’t able to be part of her bridal party for any reason, honestly communicate that to your girlfriend. Remember not being a bridesmaid doesn’t stop your friendship. You can always support her emotionally without having an official role in her wedding. Be a friend first and she’ll remember your thoughtfulness throughout.
